‘Men CAN stop violence against women – but it’s up to us to stop turning blind eye’ – Paul Nowak

Vile killer cop Wayne Couzens was nicknamed ‘the rapist’ at work – it goes to show that we as men must do more to call out inappropriate behaviour towards women in the workplace, writes d eputy general secretary of the TUC Paul Nowak

Like everyone, I have read the details of what happened to Sarah Everard with sadness and horror, feelings compounded by the brutal murder of primary school teacher Sabina Nessa less than three weeks ago.

As a trade unionist, what really stood out for me was the workplace culture revealed in the Met – the UK’s biggest police force. We learned that Sarah’s murderer was nicknamed ‘the rapist’. We learned that he indecently exposed himself at work. That he used violent porn. That his colleagues knew he bought sex – when one woman turned up at his station asking to be paid.

The murderer’s managers and colleagues knew that the man who went on to kill Sarah Everard had troubling and misogynistic attitudes to women. But they did not act to stop him abusing his power. And then it was too late.

It is clear that there needs to be a major change to the culture of the police, and to police vetting – alongside a huge expansion of work to support survivors of abuse, and new rules to make the police prioritise violence against women.

But more widely, if you look at the life histories of men who murder women, there are usually warning signs. A dismissive attitude to women, inappropriate behaviour to women at work, indecent exposure, sexual assault, a history of domestic abuse – all are common.

And that’s where men have to step up – and step in.

Lots of men work in workplaces where their male colleagues daily make women feel unsafe.

When young women were asked, nearly all of them (97 percent) said they had experienced sexual harassment. Too many women experience unwanted comments and jokes, implicit threats, bullying and being exposed to porn at work. For some that escalates to unwanted touching, violence and sexual assault.

Sometimes colleagues and managers turn a blind eye to this behaviour. The worker who everyone knows can’t be left alone in the stockroom with a young woman. The driver who shouts at women and girls walking down the street. Inappropriate sexualised jokes that humiliate and silence women dismissed as “banter”. Aggressive shouting down of women in meetings. Porn shared in workplaces.

When decent men don’t speak up and challenge this unacceptable behaviour, it emboldens abusers and gives them permission to carry on.

So here is the most important thing we can do to prevent violence against women: be prepared to challenge our male colleagues.

No-one is saying it’s easy. It’s much more comfortable to ignore it, laugh along, or let it go. But this is the culture that breeds misogyny and leads to violence against women.

Challenging unacceptable behaviour, challenging those who demean and denigrate women is our responsibility.